The Fledgling Journey

Navigating a Good Life One New Experience at a Time

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Tuesday Talk – Seeking Thrills

I’m linking up with Erika and Ashley for Tuesday Talk and today I’m focusing on Seeking Thrills.

Are you a thrill seeker? I’m not inherently a thrill seeker, but I try to push myself.  it all started when I thought that maybe skydiving would help me to face my fear of heights. Long story short, it was a great experience, but I am still afraid of heights. After skydiving I remember having this euphoric feeling because I faced something that terrified  me and got through it.  The perfect thrill needs to scare me just the right amount.  I need to  think I can do it even though it’s going to make me uncomfortable. If I  think I could die or I’ll just be miserable, it’s probably not an adventure I want to undertake

Thrills I’ve Experienced

  • Skydiving – I went a few years ago and it was fantastic. Also, it was a tandem dive and I was VERY attracted to the professional I went diving with by the end of the ordeal. Nothing like facing death to make you glom onto someone 😉

Not me, but an uncanny resemblance.

  • Zip Lining  – I’m afraid of heights so this was intense. Very fun though.

Thrills I Want to Undertake

  • Swim with sharks
  • Cage of Death in Australia – I’m a little iffy on this one because it seems like kind of cruel to the crocodile.

Cage of Death in Australia

  • CN Tower Edge Walk in TorontoCN Tower Edge Walk in Toronto, Canada
  • World’s Steepest Rollercoaster in JapanWorld's Steepest Rollercoaster in Japan
  • Night Zip Lining
  • Kayak over a waterfall or whitewater raft (there’s a new kind of raft that’s supposedly unflippable)
  • Hot Air Ballooning
  • Dine in the Sky (you’re strapped in, but suspended from a crane)

Dinner in the Sky

  • Harbor Bridge Climb in Australia
  • Parasailing
  • Thrill Walk in Switzerland (I want to do this! I’m traveling to Switzerland soon. If you have any recommendations for places to go and things to see, please let me know.)

Things I Won’t Do

All of these are a little too far outside of my comfort zone.

  • Pilot an airplane
  • Bungee jump
  • Cliff Walk in ChinaCliff Walk China
  • Running of the Bulls in Spain
  • Hang Glide
  • Scuba dive
  • Cliff Dive

So there’s my thrill bucket list. I’m not sure where the line between ok and too scary is, but I know it when I see it.

7 Best Long Necklaces

Is anyone else tired of hearing about the Nordstrom sale? There are some killer deals, but I’m obstinate and start to hate something as soon as everyone else likes it. Very Portlandia of me. I’m  actually only into locally sourced  organic vegan leather goods these days. Juuust kidding,

That’s probably the best Portlandia episode of all time. At any rate, I’m always on the lookout for a long necklace that can pull an outfit together. Here are a few I’ve been looking at recently.


Loft $34.50


Amazon $9.01


Anthropologie $58


Francesca’s $20



Francesca’s $20


Francesca’s $20


Zappos Vera Bradley $48


Pretty boss, right? Full disclosure: I watched American Graffiti this weekend and am on a mission to bring the term boss back into fashion.

Chick on the left is gonna be me when I’m done. That’s right Ron Howard. I’m coming for you.




Friday Favorites

Today I’m linking up to share my Friday Favorites.

1. Arielle Says Recipes

I originally found Arielle through a Buzzfeed Facebook post where she eliminated sugar for a month and wrote about what happened. She and I both share a love of this little white dust.

It’s called sugar.

Sheesh. Anyway, her recipes are awesome – healthy and simple. I’m looking forward to trying her Grilled Cheese With Lite Mozzarella, Brussels Sprouts, and Apple and Egg Spinach Mushroom quesadillas

2. Persuasion Video

One of my 30×30 goals is to read Persuasion by Jane Austen, which I’ve meant to read for years. I started it awhile ago and remember most of it, but looked online for a refresher. I stumbled across this video. It’s hilarious and gives just enough information to get the gist of what’s going on. The creator Leah has videos of other Jane Austen novels too.

3. Separating Out Books In Progress

This is what I’d probably categorize as a happiness hack (in the words of Gretchen Rubin). It’s obvious but also helpful. I separated out all the books I’ve started and set down, but want to finish. I realize that if a book is not interesting enough to drive me to finish, it might mean I should move on to a new book. But, these are all books that I like and want to finish, I just got distracted or couldn’t find them. So I’ve put all these books in one place (my bedside table) to remind me to keep chipping away. Easy solution. If they sit there long enough, I’ll pass them along to someone who can get some use out of them.

4. Kitchen Safe

I heard about the kitchen safe through the Runs for Cookies blog. I just got one and have liked it so far. I have a self-control problem, where I feel too constrained if I don’t have access to a certain kind of food (ahem chocolate) but I also have a hard time stopping myself once I’ve started eating it. The kitchen safe lets you lock something up on a timer (24 hours or less). This helps me because gives me access but prevents me from mindlessly downing too much. You could also use it if you need some phone-free time or a really great prank…like locking up someone’s keys. Muahaha. Totally Multipurpose.

5. By the Book Podcast

I love this podcast! Kristen and Jolenta strictly follow the advice of a self-help book for 2 weeks and report back on their findings. So far they’ve covered The Secret, French Women Don’t Get Fat, The Memory Book, and The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up. It’s equal parts helpful and entertaining. As someone who enjoys the occasional self-help book, this podcast is right up my alley.


Working on it Wednesday 7/12/17


I’m going to try to post on Wednesdays about keeping up with my goals, specifically my 30 before 30 list (aka 30×30) – a list of 30 things I want to complete before turning thirty years old, which is going to turn into a 31×31 list (at an undisclosed date, because the internet is a scary place where you shouldn’t reveal your birthdate…or at least that’s what my mom told me).

What I Failed to Consider for my 30×30 Goal List

Financial Impact

A lot of my goals were expensive or required financial planning I hadn’t factored in. For example, I moved “see the northern lights” and “Go to the Sundance Film Festival” to my alternates list because they involve expensive trips. If a goal involves any kind of cost, budget for it. Said budgeting required me to re-prioritize what is most important, which turned actually helped me focus. If you want to learn a skill, investigate the cost. If you need a lesson/tool/book/instrument, do you know someone you who would lend it to you? Could someone teach you? I’ve learned YouTube is probably one of the best places to start. Be sure to investigate other free/low-cost resources. I just learned about my neighborhood’s Facebook group, which allows group members to make requests for lessons, ask to borrow or barter items,  and ask for recommendations or advice.

Manageable steps

Be ambitious but also realistic. For me, reading a couple of books a month is realistically ambitious. First, when setting the goal, consider the cost commitment described above, but also the time commitment. I have reading 21 classic books on my list. A worthy goal. But, reading 12 books in a year is much more palatable. One book a month? I can do that. But that’s not actually a manageable goal yet. I have to put a few deadlines on my calendar.

Deadline 1: Pick the book – pretty easy and kinda fun.

Deadline 2:  Get the book (beg/borrow/steal) just kidding, don’t steal a book. They’re like fifty cents at a used books store and I guess having a misdemeanor on your record is a bad thing? Anyway, add buying the book to the calendar.

Deadline 3: Page deadline. I’ve broken down how many pages I need to read everyday to finish the book in a month and put the daily page goals on my calendar, for example 300 page book in 30 days=10 pages a day. I can do that.

The Personality Factor

I procrastinate and am a questioner leaning toward rebel in Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies framework. Short version – the framework is about how you respond to inner and outer expectations. Questioners meet internal expectations but struggle with outer expectations. Rebels resist inner and outer expectations. So a few things I’ve realized about myself: I need to know why I’m pursuing a goal. It needs a purpose or I need to think it’s fun and interesting. I’m not really into doing things that just because they sound good or to say I’ve done them. It is not bad to do something to say you’ve done it or because it sounds good.  I mean if I were into running marathons, would I try to run the Boston Marathon or just run 26-something miles by myself on a Saturday morning? I’d run the Boston Marathon. Hell yeah I would. It sounds freaking great. I’d put it on my Bumble profile. I’d add it to my résumé. I’d post it on Facebook. I want that recognition. I want to tell people I’ve done it.  I don’t think that’s vain. But I digress. I need clarity about why I’m working toward a goal, I need deadlines, and I need to make tiny baby steps that are manageable. I also need to make it work for me. I have some rebellious tendencies, so if I set up goals and my plan to achieve them is too strict , I won’t do it. I need to make things fun so they don’t feel like an obligation.

Revisions Are Necessary

If something isn’t working or is too overwhelming, change it. Forget all the “rules” about goal setting. This is your list. Make it work for you. I’ve realized I’m not going to meet the deadline on my 30×30 list. Some of it just ain’t gonna happen. To be fair, I forgot about it for a few months and got discouraged when I realized some goals were no longer possible. This is why deadlines and check-ins are important. I’ve decided I’m still going to work on the list. I’ll keep goals I want to work on, add some new goals, and take out a few I’ve decided actually aren’t a priority anymore. I’m ok with this. Progress not perfection.

Friday Favorites

Hello and Happy Friday! It’s been way too long since I’ve posted  and I’m not even going to bother to explain, but suffice to say I’m glad to be back and I’m jumping right in 🙂 So far it looks like this weekend will include signing a new apartment lease, having brunch, starting the (dreaded) packing to move, a DSLR camera lesson, and hanging out with some friends. Laundry will probably make it in there at some point too.


1. DSLR Camera

I am anxiously awaiting the camera I ordered last week. It’s a Sony a6000, which is supposedly good for beginners and easily portable. One of my goals before I turn 30 in the next six-ish months is to learn to use a DSLR camera. One of my more immediate goals is to be able to use it on a trip to NYC in a few weeks. One of my friends is teaching me to use the manual settings, but if push comes to shove, I can always use the auto function. He said the first 10,000 photos will likely be trash, but if anyone is going to prove that wrong, it’s me 😉 He’ll also be teaching me to use Lightroom, so I’m eager to learn photo editing. That way I can make my first 10,000 trash photos at least look semi-decent. Haha.

2. Side Hustle School Podcast

I just started listening to this and while I don’t currently have side-hustle aspirations, it’s fun to listen. The concept isn’t to eventually turn your side hustle (which btw is a term that makes me cringe) into a full-time gig, but rather find something you enjoy that can allow you some freedom and flexibility. The projects described in various episodes range from the interesting (semi-passive Pinterest income) to the zany (saddles for chickens…which as I learned, protects them from injury when they’re molting). The business lessons seem pretty universally applicable, for example looking for a solution to a common problem or finding a niche.

3.  OPI The Berry Thought Of You nail polish

This color is my jam.

4. I’m considering going red

Emma Stone red. My natural color is brown with red undertones, so I’m sure my coloring will allow me to pull off most shades of red. I could go darker…more orange…more blonde…thoughts?

5. Numbskull Wine

This is a Mark Ryan red blend from Walla Walla, Washington, and I love it. At $38 it’s not  outrageously price.

6.  Travel Purses

I do NOT need another purse. But there are a few I’ve been eyeing…

Hammitt VIP Clutch – Alixandra Collections $195 (ouch)

Olympia Fold Over Saddle Bag $79 at Bloomingdales

3. Express Turnlock Crossbody Bag $39.90

Urban Originals Reckless Destiny Faux-Leather Bag $78 at Nordstrom




Have a great weekend!



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